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Melt

11/22/2020

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Autumn.
 
The skies have rained and blown for weeks. Blankets have been on and off the horses. Salted mashes consumed. Saddles nestled in the tack room, waiting.
 
And then, yesterday!

Dawn broke still and the farm floated alone in a heavy cloak of fog. Mist froze on branches, wire, hay, and manes. I warmed a saddle pad and bit indoors, waited until afternoon to mount.
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As I rode, the cloud melted. Sunshine – jewel-bright, scarcely remembered – glittered the frosty trail. No people were out. No cows. No foxes. Few birds. Sometimes, my mare and I stopped just to listen to the silence. ​​

I’ve done a lot of listening this year. A lot of waiting. A lot of accepting.

Back in February, I dared to hope that this would be the year my endurance stars would realign. After years of roadblocks, I would have horses fit. Be injury-free. Not be crushed by work. Make it to rides at last!

And then, COVID.


But I had a horse ready for the third…
 
…until a normal dose of bute crashed her kidneys without warning. She spent most of a week – not to mention a large pile of cash – in the hospital. We saved her life, but not her career. Horses with compromised kidneys shouldn’t be put at risk of dehydration. She can do almost anything now. But not endurance.
 
So, I got my old campaigner out of semi-retirement. He was a rock star before headshaking syndrome put him out of the game. But he’d been looking better for several months. No reason not to give him a shot; we could always reverse course if he wasn't happy.
 
He was happy. So, so happy! It was all I could do to keep his inner monster from eating too much trail, too fast, at Top o’ the World. We finished our first 50 together in several years. We really were on top of the world. 
 
But at the next ride, he colicked near the finish. We treated. He’s fine. But I gave him the rest of the season off. Next year may be on the table for him, or it may not. We’ll have to take it as it comes.
 
I’ve been doing a lot of that. Not just with endurance, but with work, and with the intrusion of a housing development they want to build in the field next door. 
 
It’s so easy to get angry, isn’t it? When all you want is a break? Just some clear sailing, please, for once?
 
But we don’t learn much on smooth seas. 
 
When the waves are high and the fog closes in, and we are chilled to the bone just trying to find our way…that is where the answers are. We must get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Learn to rest in uncertainty. If we can find peace in that place, we can find it anywhere.
 
There’s an interesting book, if you’re struggling, called Life is in the Transitions. It tells stories of people who have suffered much more than I. Its point is that – contrary to our cultural undercurrent of expectation that life is “supposed to” always move us onward and upward – our lived experience rarely follows that trajectory. We should expect to be in the midst of transition (often the uncomfortable variety) for about 40% of our lives. Might as well get good at it, eh?
What if we settled not for a more thoughtful pace, but into it?
​For me, getting better at acceptance has meant letting go of the mental arguments in which I demonstrate (articulately and indisputably, of course) that injustice was done.

​It has meant letting go of second-guessing past choices that, if different, might have sidestepped disaster.

Acceptance has also meant settling. In a good way. Settling in. Settling down. Letting go of settling up.
Trail riding can be nice, I’ve discovered. Just walking. Getting to know a new horse, without focusing on hills and heart rates and speed. Exploring new trails or visiting old ones. Quietly watching the sun soak through the freezing fog...melt the resistance...and shine not on the way things should be, but on how they actually are.
 
It’s bright again today. I’ll saddle two horses – the one with damaged kidneys and the one that colicked – and embrace this fleeting moment that holds them both.

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4 Comments
Aemi Miller
11/23/2020 02:14:38 pm

Your writing. A brightness. What a wonderful post.

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The Sweaty Equestrian
12/3/2020 01:22:04 pm

Aww, thanks Aemi! I'm honored to have you reading, still, after all these years. ~ Tamara

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Gail T link
12/7/2020 11:15:52 am

I just discovered your blog a few days ago and I’m reading through some of your posts. This one really resonated with me. I keep hearing so many people talking about this year as if the things that happened are somehow unusual or that they will end on December 31. I guess it’s true that we don’t normally have pandemics, but all the other stuff happens all the time. Life can be catastrophic and disappointing and frustrating at any time. And I kind of wonder why so many people are so intolerant of adversity. Anyway, what I like most about your post was the idea of transitions and those transitions being where life happens. During dressage lessons, I can’t remember how many times I’ve been told that transitions are the key to improving a horse’s gaits. So I was particularly struck by your reference to transitions. Maybe dressage isn’t the only place where they are valuable.:)

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The Sweaty Equestrian
12/8/2020 07:52:03 am

Hi Gail -- I'm so glad you're here! Your connection to gait transitions is perfect. It's going to stick with me for a long time -- thanks for sharing! :) Tamara

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